Good Afternoon,

Why is it so hard to make friends when we get older? I know it’s not just me. But I find it extremely hard to find people *offline that would like to actually hang out with me. I don’t find it hard to talk to people online. There is a difference.

I have been using the internet since 1996. I have made friends via the net, some even stretch back 15 years! I ended up meeting quite a few of them as well ! Heck I met my husband online via a free dating site. But as I have gotten older it’s gotten harder to meet non-creepers online and actually feel comfortable meeting up. I made it a rule to not just “meet” with someone randomly. I like to get to know them, form a relationship or friendship and then meet.

I think maybe it has to do with my location as well now a days? I used to live fairly close to NYC but now I live in New Mexico. How did I end up here? Well, my mother moved out here from Texas. And when my son’s father decided he wanted to be with some other woman, I told him I was moving out to be near family. I didn’t think this through, I should have thought about WHERE I would be moving. I mean, New Mexico is a beautiful state, but whats out here?

Anyways, I do have a good support system on Twitter, but I am just so frustrated with trying to find some friends in person. I would like to go out to lunch occasionally, maybe hang out by going for a walk. I have two kids so pretty much anyone that would want to be my friend has to accept that. And I am married, so …no romantic stuff. I am literally only looking for a friend. Maybe I can try one of those meet up things again sometime soon? I have social anxiety so.. getting the strength to go to one of those is tough.

People tell me to try a dog park with my dog Gwen… well Gwen is a great dog, she can be shy too. (I KNOW, she took after me with the social anxiety).

Where do you meet people? Let me know, maybe I am just doing something wrong?

If you’d like to connect, I am @MyOnlySecret on Twitter. You can @ me, I don’t really do the DM though, so public messages please.