Long time no see !

Happy New Year! Yea yea, I know I am really late with this post… but I have been just taking care of myself lately. I really have not felt the need or want to blog the past few months, so I took a break from it all.

So over the past few months I have seen a surgeon for a medical issue that the ER doctor noticed back in September 2019. I was at the ER back then because I had kidney stones and they saw a mass in my lower pelvis… to be more specific, my butt… yeah so they did a CT scan and said “You need this removed”. They offered to admit me that night and see if they could get a surgeon to remove it but I was in pain from my kidney stones AND I was on my period… I was NOT in the mood for surgery, especially since the doctor said it was not urgent. So I told them I would schedule surgery later in the year.

When I got home the doctors office said they were booked until January. Okay fine I WAITED, and as my twitter followers would know, the scheduler scheduled me with the WRONG doctor… so that was fun. I had to complain and get rescheduled for February. Of course we are now in March. I saw the doctor and they say the mass is likely a cyst, but its not good to have a large cyst in your bottom… My cyst (based off the exam and CT scan and now MRI) looks like its in the muscles that are important to bowel function… so my doctor would like it removed. I mean I would like it removed as well….

So I see the dr for my pre-op on March 16. We will see what they say now that I have had an MRI done (yesterday). See if they feel they can get this mass out safely. I am nervous, but also I just want to be done with any health issues. I have been trying to work out and eat healthy. I lost some weight but not a lot. And I am kind of down about that…

That and on March 9th, I will be turning 35 years old.

And that because of this health issue I am waiting to have surgery …. I cannot get pregnant yet… and my husband and I were planning on getting pregnant but this is holding us back. So its a little frustrating.

But if all goes well, we can get pregnant in a few months.

In the mean time I am just doing the normal stuff we do in life… my daughter is in Gymnastics for toddlers, which is cute and fun to go to. My son is still in Guitar lessons. He is doing well in school. I just want to get healthy. My back is still an issue but that’s likely a life long issue I will have to deal with. I did slip and fall on ice last month and its causing me pain this month. But as far as I know, I’m not injured.

And that’s about all that is going on.

I have a new camera (I made a post about) and my husband just got me a nice new lens from canon. So I WILL be posting photos soon, as I want to get back into my hobby. I am also looking into getting my son into this horse class, where home schooled kids learn to take care of and ride horses. I am currently looking for someone to watch my younger kid though.

I am going to try to write again, since I know a lot will be going on soon. I need an outlet. So consider this blog open again.

Getting fit – together

I have been struggling to get into shape for a few years now. I have dieted. I have lost work out buddies, just due to our different life styles and jobs. It’s hard to find time with two kids, who are very different in age (toddler and pre-teen) along with my pets and my husband… to find time to work out, work, homeschool my child… and run the household.

I have back pains from thing called Tarlov Cysts, so certain workouts are out of the question. But this weekend my husband and I were discussing this.. I WANT to work out… I have a road bike and so does he… so he suggested that we work out indoors with our bikes…

Yes you can do that…


He already has one of those indoor bike trainers, it holds your bike in place while you ride and work out. So he bought a second one, and we are going to wake up together and work out a few days a week. He knows I need the support and he (being a cyclist) wants to work out indoors this winter. He hasn’t been riding his bike since our daughter was born 2 years ago, so this will be good for him too. He is hardly out of shape though.

I on the other hand, have had two kids and have a desk job. So I NEED this to get healthier and I feel with the support of my husband, we can do this together. I hope to see results.

I don’t know why we didn’t think of this sooner… I mean we are supposed to be best friends right? Yep… I think I just never thought he would want to work out with me. But this might be what I need. He is very supportive of me, he knows I have been trying to get healthier and he says I am beautiful, but I just don’t feel the part. I feel out of shape…I feel unfit…

Now I have tried this in the past but I didn’t have anyone kicking my butt out of bed in the morning, yes … we are going to do morning work outs.

I am going to take those horrible before photos soon… I am waiting for the bike stands to come in the mail this week. Wish me luck…

Here’s whats new !

I made the decision to start up preschool education with my daughter. Since my husband and I live in a city where the public schools are not up to my standard and we won’t be placing our youngest into daycare anytime soon (I am not against it, I just have no reason for it when I am home all the time.) I feel like I need to start introducing things to her slowly. We are starting with the basic alphabet and numbers, via coloring and songs.

I know small children, like my daughter, do not need a lot of time on these subjects yet, but she has been walking around the house saying part of the alphabet and some of her numbers already so I am going to work with her on them since she has shown an interest.

I have a strong belief that children will let you know when they are ready for something… if a child is behind on something, simply work with them on it and if they are not ready, come back to it later. Not all children work at the same pace… and that’s okay.

So for starters – I signed up with Education.com for printable work sheets and some other resources for my toddler. We don’t need much yet, so I am not signing her up for any major curriculum until she is in kindergarten. We have a long time before that.

I am going to make a page of fun items for toddlers that I find – and I may even make some of my own since my daughter has very specific interests… such as peppa pig – and if I can make some coloring pages with alphabet for her with peppa, I know she would have more interest than with some other random character.

Hey – did you know I am getting a new computer? And that with it’s increased speed I plan on doing more computer based projects? I am actually very excited to do this!

Do you have any toddler related projects you feel would be good for homeschooling? I am trying to create a list of fun interactive projects for my 2 year old… It’s all about play and fun while she learns now.

If you know any nursery rhyme websites with songs – let me know too. I find that searching youtube sometimes distracts my child…she sees cartoons and ignores the music… so I am trying to stay away from that.

I am trying to become a better parent – so that when we eventually have our last child (yes you read that right, we are planning to try for one more child), that I won’t be too set back. I would love to homeschool them all if we still live in this town. My homeschooling journey started off reluctantly as my son was having trouble in school…but now I am seeing the benefits differently, I am seeing how less stressed my son is, I am more engaged in his education… it’s nice to see where and what he is doing… its nice to see how he is learning!

I am very lucky to be able to be home with both of my kids…

Tis the season

Tis’ the season…

I’m not sure if I am an introvert or not. I think I just don’t like people sometimes, or maybe it’s my social anxiety. Anyways I love/hate the holidays. I love seeing people, but I get emotionally exhausted after so much interaction.

I personally do enjoy family time, hanging out with friends, but I also need a break from events. I love hosting Thanksgiving, and I almost didn’t get to host this year, but things turned around. I will be hosting, like I have been for the last 9 years.

This year our celebrations will be smaller than they have in the past. We lost a family member, and then other’s will just not be present. Things will be fine, but I think I just miss my friends. I spend a lot of time online because most of my friends are not local. I have friends who grew up with me in various other states, and we all talk via Twitter, Discord, or Facebook.

I have had friends in the past not understand that when I talk about my “online” friends, they don’t understand the connection. Some of you all know me better than my own family. And some of you I know just as well… we are there for one another. And some of you, I have met.

My daughter and my father

My father came to visit us briefly yesterday. My father isn’t really present in my life. He shows up when he can, and that means…not often. I don’t share a very close relationship with him. My mother raised me.

But it was nice to see him for a little bit. We do struggle with our views though. I am very open to things, and I don’t just people on their religious views, sexuality or race. He is very opposite. He brings up how he is against Homosexuality, etc… and it’s always the same argument. I personally feel people have the right to choose. People can be themselves. I don’t care what your skin color is, I don’t care if you are a different religion. You can be straight, gay, bisexual, transgender, etc… I will call you by what ever pronouns you prefer. I honestly just people on if they are good people or not… I also don’t judge on age. I have plenty of friends here that are younger and older than me. I feel we all learn from one another. I have learned so much from you all.

So when family can’t get past certain things and they spew hate. It just confuses me. Why can’t we all get along?

I do it for my children. I suck it up. I allow my father to come by and I talk with him. I know he isn’t going to stay around long and we can stand a day or two together. He won’t ever agree with my views and I know I can’t change him. He hasn’t lived my life and I haven’t lived his.

Their meeting

My daughter is turning 2 in less than a month. And I am so excited to celebrate with the people who make time in their busy schedules to stop by and spend time with my daughter. I feel like the time with family is very important. She needs to see who she can rely on in life. I know she has amazing family that loves her so much. I hope she can always see that, no matter who decides to not be present.

I try to teach my son, who is quite a bit older, to rely on himself first and that he has family that will back him up. To not second guess himself.

He was not in town this week by the way, he is visiting my mother about 3 hours away for an early Thanksgiving. And in the mean time, I am kind of just getting stuff sorted out with my dogs, and my work. I needed a break and this is his “fall” break from home school.

Look what I found!

For my daughter’s birthday, I will be making the above cake for her. With her food allergies, I found this cake mix! I made it the other day to test it out and she CAN have it!

We are also going through food restrictions for my son. He has had stomach issues since birth that have been showing up more and more as he got older. Right now we are limiting SOY and MILK. And my mother noticed a difference ! She mentioned that she feels the restricted diet is working! So I have to let his doctor know, because I thought I saw a difference but I didn’t know if I was imagining things.


Dog update: We have been working with Ranger (Our new dog). And things are going pretty well! I have noticed he gets very shy around men, and he won’t enter a room with one. He tends to glue himself to me, literally, he will stick to my side. I am not sure what his old owner did to him. He and my other dog get along, but Ranger is also older, so he doesn’t really PLAY. He does get a bit frustrated when Gwen jumps on him, BUT he doesn’t get aggressive with my kids, which is great. He is just going to need more time to slowly adjust to our family. But … I am happy to say… He is adjusting. And I think he is happy here – he is smiling more… (see above photo)

That is a BIG difference from before… and we can always work on getting him to be okay with men…or at least the men in our family at least.

On Monday he will be getting his teeth cleaned, so I am anxious. I am nervous he will not trust me after this, BUT I want him to be healthy.


Since I am posting photos of my dog, Ranger. I may as well show off my amazing cat (Finnegan).

And my other dog, Gwendolyn…

Well – I do hope everyone has a wonderful holiday season. We will enjoy the time we have with family that is around. I can’t wait to see certain people. I love the lights and colors of Christmas.

I am going to attempt a cooking video sometime soon about gluten free/rice free foods. I would like to obtain recipes to help others out that have the same or similar issues as my family.

Let me know the kind of recipes you would like to see! I am going to work on expanding on Gluten Free items. I would like to attempt some pasta recipes.

H- Pylori – what the heck is it?

This is my daughter (see above photo). And we are learning what H-Pylori is first hand this week. All last month my daughter had stomach problems, and they continued through this month, so I took her into the doctor’s office, where they took me seriously thankfully, and ordered a stool sample test. Last night, I got a text from the mychart app that my doctor’s office uses with these results.

So of course I googled what Helicobacter was, and of course we will need to start with a round of TWO different antibiotics AND something to reduce the acid in her stomach. I don’t know yet what else we will need, if anything. But the doctor did order the medication, which the pharmacy is out of, but they will get tomorrow. So tomorrow, I will talk to the pharmacist about how I will be giving these to my daughter, etc.

Of course, she still has a few more lab results we are waiting on from that same stool sample, but I am thankful that her recent stomach problems can be treated. We thought we were losing safe foods, because things that used to never make her sick were causing issues. In the mean time I need to be really careful about her diet though. She still has food allergies, and I don’t know how this medication will mess with her stomach.

Taken from WEB MD

Hopefully my daughter will be feeling a bit better by her birthday in a month. I can only hope. I feel bad that she has had to go through this for a month already, but really…. how could we know that this was H Pylori ? And not a food contamination related to her food allergies? It’s hard because they are very similar symptoms.

Anyways, I will update how she is doing with the new medication soon.

In other news… my son is doing better at playing the guitar. His music teacher was telling me that we are doing something right, because he is improving.

(Above) is a photo of my son at one of his lessons. I know he really wants to play the guitar, but setting up “practice” time is HARD. He just doesn’t want to practice. But he wants to play well. *sigh* he is learning that it takes practice to be good at something.

You can’t have everything right away.

Hey its me

And news with me, I lost 2 more lbs! YAY!! I am on a diet that is taking forever because I have little self control.

Hey at least I am honest. But I want to lose at least another 10 lbs before we try to get pregnant again, for health reasons. I am high risk.

So fingers crossed that I can get healthy, so we can add another little person to our family!!! 🙂

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